Good with code, prefers to work alone, unusually blunt, strong sense of justice and fairness, creative problem solver, seen as unusual by others, resists direct authoritarian commands.

I have absolutely no idea if you are neurodivergent, but if there were any more red flags, you'd be dancing semaphore.

If it's not something you've looked into, it might answer a lot of questions and provide you with a vocabulary to advocate for your needs, and is protected by law in many countries.